February 23, widely celebrated as Defender of the Fatherland Day, holds a special place in the hearts of people across Kyrgyzstan. While the day was originally established to honor military service members during the Soviet era, it has evolved into something much broader. For many, it’s no longer just “Army Day”; it’s become a day to celebrate men in general, regardless of whether they’ve served in the armed forces.

As a Kyrgyz man, this day carries layered meanings. Growing up, I often heard stories of my father’s military service, and his tales were inspiring. But outside of my family, it was clear that for most people, February 23 wasn’t just about the military—it was about celebrating the everyday courage, resilience, and roles of men as protectors and providers. Over time, this informal shift in focus turned the day into what many now simply call “Men’s Day.”

In schools and workplaces, the celebration often takes on a lighthearted tone. Boys and men are congratulated with small gifts, humorous speeches, and tokens of appreciation. Women often use this day to acknowledge the men in their lives—not necessarily for their role as defenders of the nation, but for their contributions as brothers, fathers, husbands, colleagues, and friends. It’s a day of gratitude, a playful counterpart to March 8, International Women’s Day, which follows just a few weeks later.

For me, this dual identity of February 23—half military commemoration, half Men’s Day—makes it uniquely special. On one hand, it’s a chance to honor the soldiers and veterans who dedicate themselves to the defense of our nation. On the other, it’s an opportunity to recognize the quiet, everyday strength of men who shoulder responsibilities in their families and communities.

In my family, February 23 has always been more about the latter. My father, while proud of his military service, would use this day to remind me and my brothers of the broader idea of being a “defender.” To him, it meant more than physical protection—it meant standing up for your values, supporting your loved ones, and contributing to the betterment of society. Those lessons have stayed with me, shaping my understanding of what it means to be a man in today’s world.

It’s worth noting, though, that not everyone is entirely on board with this informal transformation of February 23. Some veterans and military personnel argue that the original meaning of the day—the celebration of those who serve in the armed forces—should not be diluted. They believe the day should remain focused on honoring military service. While I respect their perspective, I also believe that the broader, more inclusive interpretation of the day reflects the realities of modern Kyrgyz society, where fewer people serve in the military, but all men are celebrated for their contributions in various roles.

In Kyrgyz culture, the concept of being a “defender” isn’t limited to soldiers. It’s about ensuring the well-being of your family, standing by your community in difficult times, and working toward a brighter future. This resonates deeply with me. While I have never worn a uniform, I strive to embody these ideals in my daily life—as a son, a brother, and a citizen of Kyrgyzstan.

As February 23 approaches this year, I find myself reflecting on the dual nature of the day. I’ll raise a toast to the soldiers and veterans who have served our nation with courage and dedication. At the same time, I’ll celebrate the men around me—the fathers who work tirelessly to provide for their families, the friends who offer support in tough times, and the young men who are stepping into their roles with determination and hope.

For many of us in Kyrgyzstan, February 23 isn’t just a day about the past; it’s a celebration of the present and a commitment to the future. Whether you see it as Defender of the Fatherland Day, Men’s Day, or something in between, it’s a time to honor the strength, resilience, and compassion that define what it means to be a man in our society. And while the traditions may continue to evolve, the values of courage, loyalty, and love for one’s family and homeland will always remain at the heart of this celebration.